Category Archives: Autism

“Special Needs”

In the book, “The Seeing Glass: A Memoir”, by Jacquelin Gorman, she writes in chapter eleven about her brother, who was living with autism:

I hate anything having to do with the word special ever since they started using it to describe my brother. Robin has special needs. He has to go to a special school with special teachers. Now it’s called special education, but there is nothing special about any of it. It’s the perfectly healthy child who is special, who gets to live the privileged childhood that is denied their “unlucky” sibling.

I remember this really striking me when I read it. There were a lot of things this book made me really think about. It was a book that took me places I had not anticipated going when I first read it. She has such a good point . . . why did they pick the word “special” to represent those who have challenges that most of us don’t have to contend with? Maybe it was society’s way of trying to even things up for these people . . . give them a little leverage.

Sue Klassen, editor of the RAHA (Rochester Area Homeschoolers Association) News newsletter, wrote in their June/July 2006 issue about this topic:

My son contends that all children have special needs, and I heartily agree. One child needs hours of intense physical activity each day while another needs an endless supply of books at bedside. Some learn best through auditory channels while others learn best through seeing things. Others can learn anything if it’s set to music and still others thrive on a logical-mathematical approach. However, I resent when the term “Special Needs” holds overtones of “Defective Child.”

This is exactly what special needs has come to connotate . . . being defective. And yet, as she so aptly delineated, we all have our very own specialness . . . uniqueness . . . individuality. At the beginning of the diagnosis of my children with autism, it was such a foreign word to my lips. Admittedly, however, I soon found myself using it as a crutch, wanting to convince people that the differentness they were seeing in my child was not due to poor parenting, but to something biological. And yet, these very insecurities were deepening these negative perceptions of different people.Men who are stressed out, get less than 6 hours in duration. on line cialis browse around this web-site

After living and learning more about someone with extraordinary perspective differences and having needs that cognizantly address things we all take for granted, like being sensorially balanced, it has helped me become more comfortable around a higher level of differentness. What have I chosen to do within my own home at this time as it pertains to how I view my “special needs” children? I’ve come to the place where they are simply themselves now, as they have always been, without a label attached to help others feel more comfortable. If my children need additional information shared with others in order to help themselves be more comfortable, then so be it. Otherwise, it is simply, “This is my son, Adam.”

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Life Without School Blog

A month or so ago, I was invited to be a featured author at a group blog called, Life Without School. I had heard of this blog a few months before that, but passed it off as another site that will come and go of limited substance or narrow focus/perspective. A friend I have made through my e-mail group homeschoolingcreatively, Stephanie, who has her own blog called Throwing Marshmallows, brought it up on the list, and referenced a post that she thought I would really resonate with. Because of my respect for her, I decided to check it out.

I immediately enjoyed what was going on at the blog. It really seemed to be trying to represent the many faces of homeschooling, and not setting any one thing up as best or better or “the way”. In fact, it really seemed to be focusing on the individuality of children, families, and each unique experience as valid. I am an inclusivist (is that a word? LOL!) at heart and value what I can learn not only from those choosing a similar path as myself, but those choosing different paths and having different perspectives than I currently have.

So, when I received an invitation to be part of the group blog and throw in my perspectives and experiences and passions, I quickly accepted. So, my biography is there under Cindy, which shares how I made the decision to homeschool in the first place. My first post is now up called A Whole New World, which is about the shift I had to experience as I learned to homeschool my son with autism.The lovemaking cialis sale performance is optimized with the consumption of this medicine.

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“It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown”

Adam came up to me today and requested that we go to Walmart to buy “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown” from Peanuts Home Video. My first reaction was, “Where did that come from?” and “Is that on video?” and “Do they have their own home video productions?” Adam is 13 and lives with autism. He is moderately affected which means he is moderately verbal and moderately to high behaviors associated with autism.

There are so many things I love about the perspective living with autism can bring. Who thinks to watch “It’s a Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown” in May? Unfortunately, when we went looking for it, the clerk said that this title usually only shows up around Halloween time. Adam was able to find a happy secondary choice in a new Thomas the Tank Engine video. As we were waiting for the clerk to return from the back room, I got to grab a few deep pressure hugs and kisses. How many of you get to give hugs and kisses to your 13 year old sons in Walmart?

A young woman from our church, who is on summer break from her first year of university, is learning to work with Adam to help him learn and grow in certain areas over the next few months. On the way home from Walmart, I got to participate in the newest round of “I’m thinking” objects to role play. The category is transportation . . . “I’m thinking of something that is a transportation, children ride in it, and it has a stop sign on it, what is it?” “It’s a school bus!” And then I get to role play how the bus drives, then stops, puts out the stop sign, all the cars stop, the children get off, the stop sign goes back in, and the bus drives off.

“I’m thinking of something that is a transportation, it flies with wings (gotta fix that one), and goes up and down and hovers, what is it?” “It’s a helicopter!” And then I get to role play how the helicopter goes up, then down, then forward, then backward, then hovers, then lands. If it’s anything like the category of bugs and how he so enjoyed role playing those, I’m in for repeating this scenario up to ten times a day for the next three months 🙂Furthermore, selling generic or fake versions of this drug pamelaannschoolofdance.com online cialis is illegal.

Anyway, I guess I’m going on a surprise hunt for Adam . . . on-line . . . to see if I can find “It’s the Great Pumpkin, Charlie Brown”, by Peanuts Home Video.

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