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Warning: Not for the faint of heart Embarassed

How could a good unschooler resist documenting the birth of kittens? Not us! We decided to take in a pregnant mother cat that had been hanging around our church for a while now. She is really sweet, and a good mommy.

The children were SO excited to be able to witness the experience. It happened on Thursday, April 24, 2008, starting around 7:00 p.m., when Missy (the name we think we’ve chosen for the momma) started acting strange and headed for a tight place. Luckily, I was able to convince her to birth in a laundry basket with her bed in the tub.

So, here’s the entire experience of the birth of Kitten #2 (an orange like her mommy):

Crowning:

Emergence:

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Cutting the Cord, and Taking care of the placenta:

Nourishment:

The full litter of four beautiful kittens (one black with orange/white, one gray with orange, one orange, and one tan/white or light orange):

Having a Voice and the Power of Words

Over at Woodstone Prairie, Maura wrote about the discrimination of the mentally disabled, as well as the common word usages in the same category used flippantly to describe negative attributes.  Interestingly, both just recently were part of a conversation as well as an experience today (again).

I was gone for the weekend with four of my children getting to enjoy the camaraderie of fellow unschoolers at a weekend camp at a sound on the coast of North Carolina here in the state we live.  It’s a group called Families Learning Together that has been around for a while here in North Carolina, and for which I have become a part over the past few years.  They have two camps a year:  one in the fall and one in the spring, at various camp locations across North Carolina (usually YMCA types or church camps, etc., where you can rent the entire facility).  They are starting to add a winter gathering.  There are usually around 100 people of all ages and this past weekend, there were four families with children with autism there.

I had a particularly good time connecting with a mother of two, Carissa, in which we enjoyed sharing similar experiences of many attributes of our families being “different”.  One particular conversation I had was about the idea that it’s the mentally disabled that are the most discriminated about strictly for the fact that they really have no voice.  As an example, I brought up the realization that before the Jews were persecuted during the Holocaust, all the disabled people were killed.  But nobody talks about that, or for them.  Though it was horrendous what happend to the Jews, they have a voice to be remembered and seek consolation or vindication.  Anyway . . . I agree with Maura on this point.
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And, just this morning, during an early morning scripture study class, some of the youth referred to each other or themselves as “retards”.  I like to take the opportunity, particularly with this age group, to create awareness on their part, as most of this language is just said without realizing what they are actually saying.  I’ll say something like, “You know, one should think about the words they use, because they may be in the presence of someone who has a mentally retarded child.”  Since they all know about Adam, they usually quickly apologize, and I hope, find more awareness.  I think change begins with the youth . . .

I try not to take it personally, but educate.  But, sometimes, it is tiring to always be in that role.  So, again, I’m there with Maura on this one.

Lego Mentorship

I came home yesterday and heard some instructional talk coming from behind the couch, which is William’s “quiet time area”. Hhmmm, what’s going on? I was excited to discover this:

I was excited for several reasons. First, there was a time when Eli eagerly sought out “pupils” for Lego instruction (and other related building materials) when he was about 11-12 years old. At the time, there were no takers. Now that he’s (recently) turned 17, he is not as interested in giving in this manner as he is so engrossed in his own passion pursuits (namely, computer programming). So, the fact that he was giving patiently of his time to his younger brother was exciting.

Second, there have been many attempts on my part to offer William, through his interests of castles and knights, to build the same with various building materials. Because of his learning differences, it was always WAY over his head to comprehend the spatial ability to do so. He always begged favor of Eli to construct any of these things for him. Further, starting when he was 3-4 years old, I began to slowly help him develop some visual-spatial abilities. Because he is a creative, right-brained learner, I knew this was intended to be a gift area that had been hindered by something, so I hoped to tap into it some way or another. He had a difficult time, to begin with, even placing blocks in the same location as myself. It took some time to build up imitating a two block construction, and he was only able to do so three-dimensionally, from a real person. He had to work up to having me hide my creation and then duplicating as well as duplicating it from a picture. Eventually, William was able to construct 7-8 block creations both in imitation and by picture.

Because Eli was a huge builder, we have all sorts of types of building material, but William has not gravitated to it, though I’ve seen interest, but because of his inability, he stayed away. Periodically, he gave it a try, but discontinued fairly quickly.
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So, to have William not only doing a difficult Lego creation was exciting, but the perseverance I was witnessing was next to extraordinary for him. He has always been one easily frustrated and always ready to quit (which I’ve worked gently but consistently on), so his sticking with it, even eagerly, and also patiently listening to Eli’s oral instructions, another weakness for him (as is for Eli), continued my amazement. Maybe because Eli struggles with verbals makes it a great match for William in how he explains things along with visuals and explanations of how he perceives spatially (one of Eli’s major gifts).

Anyway, after 2-3 several hour long sessions, this was the “product”:

By the way, notice William’s “outfit” . . . he is being a referee (his great right-brained asset is his imagination, displayed through self character and costuming creations) 🙂

Faith and Unschooling

At the beginning of the year, when I was reading various blog posts, I came across some great thoughts over at Loving Him 4 Ever. Interestingly, as I went to look up the reference, it appears a break has occurred for the blog author since writing this post. I hope there is more to come! Anyway, here is an excerpt that particularly caught my attention:

I’d like to share some things I believe God has given me recently.

The first thing was Deut 6:6-7…

6And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: 7And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up

This speaks to me that we are to bring our children alongside of us as we live life and they will be mentored and learn from us…there will be an impartation of our spirit into theirs…but is comes thru relationship with them..a good, solid, loving relationship with them…one where they can trust us to love them unconditionally…

Two weeks ago today, William was baptized by his older brother.

Afterward, his father (and my hubby of almost 23 years!) confirmed William a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints and bestowed upon him the gift of the Holy Ghost by the power of the priesthood which he bears.

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Almost right after the lovely gathering dispersed, William excitedly approached me and asked, “Do I get to have my own scriptures now!?” It was very interesting for several reasons. One was that I had not discussed this as any “rite of passage” or anything before obtaining your own scriptures, so I wonder why he associated it as such. However, in the past, that is when the children have typically taken up owning and carrying their own scriptures (though he has two older brothers who don’t do so; therefore, it isn’t a given). Second, was how eager he was to obtain his own scriptures (this from a boy who LOVES presents that are toy driven, yet this is so spiritual driven, and he doesn’t read yet).

So, it got me to thinking about this passage that I found above as well as the post that I wrote over at Life Without School a while ago found here. I do things quite a bit differently as it pertains to how I share my faith with my children, and all the attributes that go with that. For instance, it is common to start very young with children to pray alongside them so they “grow up with it”; therefore, they will continue with it as they are older. The same could be said of owning and carrying one’s scriptures from a young age, whether they can read or not, just to create a “habit.”

I didn’t do that with my children. Instead, I did as the scripture above indicates: I lived and spoke of it, in my home and outside of my home, as I awoke and as I went to sleep, as I walked and as I lay; it incorporates every aspect of my life. What I found was that my children each came to desire it for themselves when they were old enough to make that choice and recognize the value in it. I saw it with prayer, scripture study, serving a mission, Sabbath Day observance, and all the other myriad of goodly things to seek after.

In our church, there is an “age of accountability” whereby people are old enough to know right from wrong, make correct choices, and understand the consequences of actions. That age is 8. William actually turned 9 years old the day after his baptism. With his learning difficulties, I felt another year was in order and that proved to be of benefit as I saw him really embrace for himself his own desire for the important saving ordinance of baptism.

Interestingly, it is often found through brain research that the ages of 8-10 years is formative in the ability to discern, learn, and assimilate. Many of my children are right-brained learners, William included, and it is not until this age that many higher level thinking abilities emerge. The previous years are ones of building a foundation that will create so much of what will be needed for the proceeding years of growth and understanding. I see this both with academia as well as spirituality. You can include emotional and physical in there as well, from my vantage point. Pretty cool, really. It’s just another testament of the Truth that I live.

Rebuilding Relationships

Here I go trying to get my blogging habit going . . . again. Only time will tell when my efforts will stick 🙂 I thought it would be fun to target various children in my focus for my posts if I don’t have a personal inspired thought for the day. Today, I thought I would start with Adam because he did something we all dropped our jaws over the other day. In fact, I had to laugh because my instinct was to tiptoe around the situation, pretending that if I didn’t put a spotlight on it, it would stick around a while longer . . . LOL! So, what am I talking about.

Adam, who is 15 years old, and struggles with autism on a minutely basis, has taken to withdrawing from the family for the most part over the past several or more years. He is very comfortable around his father and I so will hang out between his own bedroom (one of the few with their own) and our bedroom, connecting on a consistent basis. As for most of the other children, he avoids them . . . the younger ones because they agitate him because he can’t predict their behaviors, and the older ones, because they are usually around where the little ones are . . . LOL! So, to come out into the main family area during peak hours is rare. Instead, he peeks his head out his door to request food every so often . . . thus, why his nickname became “His Majesty” . . . LOL! . . . or to request a parent or older sibling to do something with him.

It would take a lot to explain the ins and outs about how and why things happen, but just suffice it to say that Adam and Alex (13 years old and living with autism) are autistically at odds right now. It happened when they were about 2 and 4 years old, and started again around 12 and 14 years old. Probably another year and they could be through it, with a little help from me. And, that’s what I started the other day. Alex has come a long way in understanding his own and others’ behaviors, including Adam’s, with a LOT of talking and explaining from me to him, and a lot of talking through relaxation techniques in order that he doesn’t go into a meltdown himself over their behavioral differences.

So, Adam doesn’t want Alex to be outside when he is, and lately, Adam has taken to wanting to be outside more since moving to the country, and so has Alex. Naturally, Alex doesn’t want to be dictated whether he can be outside just because his brother does, so I decided to implement a plan that entered my mind. I explained to Alex that although he is the younger brother, he has more abilities than his older brother, and in order to create a different relationship, he would need to be the one to initiate a rebuilding of their interactions as he proved to Adam that he could be trusted through maintaining his composure no matter what Adam says. Alex seemed game, so we rehearsed what he could say, and what Adam might do in reaction behaviorally, and how Alex could respond.

So, Alex approached Adam who was waiting on the trampoline for his sister, and sure enough, Adam closed his eyes and started insisting that Alex leave. Alex courageously and calmly stood his ground and waited for a silence and initiated, “Adam, I want to be your best friend.” Hhhmm, he added “best” in the suggested sentence . . . interesting 🙂 Alex had to repeat this a couple times for Adam to really hear him since he will often shut down all his senses when he feels like he might become overwhelmed in someone’s presence. I helped Alex keep his composure through Adam’s ignoring and other behaviors and Adam dared to peek and see that Alex was being calm still. Then, I leaned over and suggested that Alex ask Adam a question about what he was wanting . . . “Do you want to bounce with Abbey?” Adam replied calmly, “Yes.” And then Alex stated he would go inside now so Adam could bounce with Abbey.Such is native to some Asian look here cialis prices countries like Indonesia, Malaysia and Thailand.

Alright, I figured that was a good start, and if we do something like that every day, maybe their interactions would become less suspicious of one another and maybe they could start being in the same room together again. So, what to my wondering eyes did I see a few hours later? Adam came downstairs (after returning to the house and to his room, as usual) and sat down in a chair and watched his oldest brother, Eric, play video games in the main room of the house . . . during prime time peak hours! Happily! With Eric (who has a similar history with Adam, who couldn’t tolerate Eric’s voice for several years before he left for a year, which seems to have broken that pattern to a large degree, thanks to some things Eric did when he returned to help lessen the previous effects, bless his soul). Adam stayed there for about a half hour! And Alex walked in, and he was fine! I was shocked. Everyone was shocked. We walked around like you would when you see a deer in the woods and don’t want to frighten it away . . . LOL!

My hubby arrived home from work and I met him on his walk in and prepared him for a surprise, but warned him not to be too shocked or “scare him away”. He walked in, saw, and his jaw dropped. I even went and got a picture. I know! Sounds silly, but unless someone lives with autism to the degree we do, you have no idea 🙂 Here’s the captured moment!

Where have all the children gone?

Warning: An opinion post 🙂 Also, I can’t get my formatting to work the way I want . . . drat. Everything stays double spaced when I hit Enter and I can’t even get it to Tab so that you can see the spacing. Help! Anyway, here it goes:

I got to thinking about play and children and how it is lost on today’s and yesterday’s generation, and how I wonder if it will be obsolete before too long unless we parents open our eyes. It seems to me that so many parents raising their children are under the impression that they have to get the first leg up for their children, even putting their in utero babies on waiting lists for “the best preschools/schools”. I drive neighborhoods and wonder, “where are the children?”

In fact, I left a neighborhood, admittedly filled with those over-achiever types, as it was a well-to-do clientele. Our neighbors said to me, “You’re not like us . . .” No, we’re not. Our seven children actually played outside everyday. Where are the other children? Only allowed outside under close supervision, even at 11 years old! We were told that we were close to abusive because we allowed our children to . . . go barefoot . . . gasp! Sometimes . . . even in the winter (NC is a wonderful state that way!) . . . gasp! What I say is . . . sigh.

So, as I pondered this, the words, “Where have all the flowers gone?” came to mind, so I looked up the lyrics of that popular 60s song about war. And, I quickly coined these words to match my melancholy mood about the state of affairs with play and children:

Where have all the children gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the children gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the children gone?

Closed in behind four walls, every one.

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Where have all the babies gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the babies gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the babies gone?

Put in daycares by working parents, every one.

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Where have all the toddlers gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the toddlers gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the toddlers gone?

In circle time at preschool, every one.

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Where have all the young ones gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the young ones gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the young ones gone?

Sorted and labeled inside the box, every one.

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Where have all the pre-adolescence gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the pre-adolescence gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the pre-adolescence gone?

Signed up for programs and activities, every one.

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Where have all the teenagers gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the teenagers gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the teenagers gone?

Gangs or cliches or drugs to find acceptance, every one

Accepting their fate and awaiting their time, every one.

(Which one do you like?)

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Where have all the children gone?

Long time passing.

Where have all the children gone?

Long time ago.

Where have all the children gone?

Turned into parents who continue the cycle, every one.

Without play . . .

Without freedom . . .

Inside the box . . .

Where’s the hope for a brighter tomorrow . . . without play . . . without childhood?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

Oh, when will you ever learn?

This all began when I put away the rubber boots I bought for my two young ones. So much adventure in so little time! Firefighters, park rangers, police officers, splashing in the creek (yep, in the winter), no socks, and here I captured them collecting some dirt to fill a hole:


Thank you 2007; Hello 2008!

Wow! 2007 has been a blur for me. So much has happened that has kept me from blogging as faithfully as I did the year before. And now 2008 approaches. I wonder what it holds!? I have hardly had a breath to consider my thoughts, goals, or desires for the new year, so I decided to take the time right now to do so via my blog.

Eric and Abbey, my two young adults (wow!) are off to a New Year’s Eve party; Eli is programming on his new laptop he received for Christmas (so many blessings this year! Thanks go to my Father in Heaven); Adam just requested another orange pop in his bedroom (that he has been sleeping in instead of ours since moving here one month ago, yay!); Alex is watching TV downstairs (is he watching one of his Full House episodes he received for Christmas?); William is watching the SpongeBob movie on our new flat screen TV (woohoo; we’re always some years behind the times before moving into new technology); Joseph is upstairs taking a bath while Dad watches TV on the other big flat screen TV with DVR (we’re only getting used to the possibilities!); and here I am . . . thinking.

Let’s see, as for computer time, I want to do less with my e-mail groups, more with my blog, and finally commit to writing my book. Now to accomplish the best timing for my writing to occur . . . morning? evening?

I look forward to all the possibilities that moving to the country holds for us. It has been super fantastic for William and Joseph. Every nice day, they spend large chunks of time outside, exploring, creating, living. So much of what we desire must wait until the old house sells. It’s not even on the market yet . . . yikes! I’ve finally hired a painter to get it all painted after realizing it is totally unreasonable to think myself, or even with at least two children helping at all times, it will get done. It just won’t. There’s still so much to do outside of that. I tell ya, seven years of living with seven children and seven pets does its damage 🙂

Here is a picture of the new place with an attempt at a Christmas letter family picture. Now that Eric is home (having come home about a week before Christmas from off his mission on medical leave), I need to redo it and try to do better.

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It is a log home, obviously, on 15 acres. It provides the best of both worlds. My hubby wanted seclusion, and it doesn’t get better than this! We are completely surrounded by woods and we are at the end of a right of way, so absolutely no cars come past us at all since there is no public road for about a mile. I wanted to still be near everything that I have become accustomed to as a surburbia homeschooling dweller, and this is 5 minutes from a major interstate, a business highway and a good size city. Beat that!

It’s only 15 minutes from our old place as well so I didn’t have to switch doctors, dentists, shopping, churches, or friends. And, after almost a month of living in it, we all absolutely loved it the moment we stepped foot inside. I feel freer than I have in a very long time. Peace.

I guess I won’t spill everything out in one blog post. I’ll try to update everyone as time goes on. Hopefully, it will keep me active this year blogging. I’ve loved having my thoughts, ideas, and perspectives all in one handy location to reference again and again. I’ve begun printing it out as a type of journal. It’s all good.

I end by absolutely recognizing the Lord’s hand in our lives and the many blessings we enjoy each and every day. I just feel very grateful. I wish peace and joy to each and every one of you! See you in 2008!

Bittersweet Memories

We’re moving to the country at the end of this month! I’ll post some on that another time. However, we need to downsize a bit . . . in a good way. So, I’ve been trying to put some of my newfound desire to throw things out into effect . . . not typically part of my past nature . . . and it feels good. But today, I was going through my armoire/bookshelf unit in the family room, which is where I have kept my ABA therapy supplies I used with my two boys with autism in the day that they were intensely learning to speak, for instance.

We stopped most formal therapy back in 2002. Though, ABA principles are how Adam (15) still learns today. In this middle cabinet are shoebox sized clear storage containers with oodles and oodles of cards. Adam LOVES to match, so I would make cards for everything! I came across the word cards we used when he learned to read . . . tossed them. Ah, there are the color coded question cards with verbal/visual matched answer card for the 100 questions he learned when he had a short foray in a public kindergarten, and I wanted to prove to the administration that a child “like Adam” could successfully participate in their fund raiser (he was one of only a few children in the whole school who answered 100% correctly). What’s funny is he still remembers those questions. The thing I’ve discovered about Adam’s autism is that he never deletes anything, which would make it difficult to make room for more important things, one would think. Kinda like my hanging on to these cards.

I found the conversation cards we used; I decided to keep those. Same with all those emotion cards that Adam loved so much. With the advent of the Internet, where, if you want any type of picture, all you need to do is google image and find a hundred to choose from, all of my meticulously acquired visual pictures of various objects are deemed obsolete. But, how can I just throw them away after literally hours upon hours of scouring magazines for just the right pictures to use to help Adam or Alex learn the word . . . in double, no less. And, I hand lamanated them with contact paper . . . hundreds of pictures.

Times sure have changed. What a blessing for those who are helping their children with autism today! But, one can’t replace the individualized photos I have to bring the words alive in his own life. The picture of his chair, or his blanket, or his hammer set, or the alphabet puzzle he loved. Or how about those emotion pictures of his siblings, his father (and my hubby), and myself. Look how young we were! And, yes, I even have photos of Adam pointing in the grocery store, his sister waving in McDonalds, and my hubby pumping gas at the gas station. So, if you see a strange woman taking pictures in public places where you don’t normally see a camera, she might just have a child with autism!You will certainly not feel bad for view address cheap cialis filing the Propecia lawsuit.

I did toss quite a bit. However, nostalgia and sheer bittersweet memory had me hold on to quite a bit. The likelihood is that some of my children may have children with autism themselves. My oldest son and daughter have asked me about this. I’ve said that they can take one child at a time and see what happens. The bottom line is that they will have a grandma (me) who knows a lot about helping, and she’ll have a bunch of cards to start them out 🙂

I kept the buckets to six. Maybe as more time passes, I’ll be able to throw out more. But, for now, they stay as a reminder of where we’ve been, in order to remember to enjoy where we are today.

Penguins

I’m going to commit to coming back to my blog. I miss it, and it is so awesome to have a journal of one’s thoughts, theories, experiences, and every day life.

I went to Wal-Mart to pick up Spiderman 3 that the children were all clamoring for, and decided to pick up a bunch of reduce priced movies that we didn’t have as a surprise. One of them was Happy Feet, the Warner Brothers movie about penguins. I haven’t watched it yet, but my younger two have watched it several times over the past few days.

What I love about William, 8, is that whatever he gets done watching on visual media, he becomes. Joseph, his younger brother, follows suit, though not as prevalent as in William. So, out from the movie room come two penguins, swaying hobble, hands to side, and all. It is just SO cute! I love this stage of childhood for the creative learner!Barring a few minds, people around have started accepting facts and true aspects of a man’s impotency. purchased this purchase cheap cialis

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Insomnia: Creative Bursts or Stress Release?

Here I am in the middle of the night, wide awake. This happened about a month ago as well. It’s frustrating when I’m lying there knowing I need my sleep. On the other hand, when I give in to the inevitable and embrace it, I am astounded by the level of creativity that emerges from my mind! I may actually begin to desire my insomniac times.

I felt a bit ill and went to bed at midnight. My son, Adam, who lives with autism and has the traditional trait that comes with the disorder, a significant sleep pattern difference, is usually ready to come to bed around 1:00-2:00 a.m., depending on when he awoke. This night it would be around 2:00 a.m., so I set my cell phone alarm and went to sleep quickly. Adam immediately consented to retire at the designated time, but I also had popped completely awake . . . never a good sign. After taking his melatonin, Adam was sleeping within about 30 minutes, while I continued to stare, wide-eyed at the slow changing digital clock at my beside. At 3:00 a.m., I decided to see what I could accomplish.

I had agreed to create a post over at Life Without School in relation to a couple of questions that were posed there at various areas. I have not taken the opportunity to discuss the right-brained learner often there, and this was just that moment to do so. I decided to sit down and see what emerged. I just love it when writing flows from my fingertips, and that’s exactly what happened tonight. It wrote itself, and I can amaze myself at what results. The creativity burst from my insomnia helps relieve certain stresses I take upon myself willingly that naturally accumulate in the household of unique individuals I call my family and the lifestyle that most benefits each through home/unschooling, including my own personal development through writing and speaking.
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The post I created is to come out in mid-June, so I’ll let everyone know when to go take a peek after “peaking” your interest . . . LOL! See, even the puns come out 😉 And, after so many months of a dry spell on my blog, maybe this post in the middle of the night will kick start a new segment of thoughts to share with you all.

I guess I’ll go see if I can catch a couple of hours before daylight.